-I'm not going to lie: failure sucks. It makes us feel like we're less of a person because we failed. We feel inadequate and wonder how others think of us. Do they think less of us? Have we damaged our relationship with those who use whatever we've programmed? Have I damaged my relationship with my co-workers? All of these questions come at the forefront and they all stem from a desire to do our best and make sure that we don't cause harm to others. We want others to think well of us and our skills and failure amplifies whatever feelings of inadequacy we might have. We wonder if we should eve be doing this at all, or if our talents lie elsewhere. We feel like giving up.
+I'm not going to lie: failure sucks. It makes us feel like we're less of a person because we failed. We feel inadequate and wonder how others think of us. Do they think less of us? Have we damaged our relationship with those who use whatever we've programmed? Have we let our team down? All of these questions come at the forefront and they all stem from two desire: a desire to do our best and desire to do no harm to others. We want others to think well of our skills and of us. Failure runs counter to those desires and amplifies whatever feelings of inadequacy we might have. We wonder if we should be programming at all or if our talents should be used elsewhere. We feel like giving up.
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+We don't think of failure as part of the learning process. Failure is often seen as the end-point of the journey. In school a failing grade is seen as a condemnation. We don't see it as "I need to practice this some more"; instead we see that we have caused shame and discomfort to ourselves and our loved ones. We do ourselves a grave disservice if we don't realize that failure is a natural part of a process and that it's OK to fail. Not everything we do will be perfect. Mistakes will creep into the best code we write. We will slip up and deploy to the wrong system. Our mistakes will cause discomfort to others. Accepting this gives us the freedom to realize that despite our best efforts we will not be perfect. But rather than seeing that as a limitation we can use this as part of our growth process.